June 26, 2020
Bride Guide #58 is everything you need to know about the Food and Speeches for your wedding by Farmington UT Wedding Photographer Lauren Kay Photography.
Most celebrations consist of a dinner or lunch. If your guests have come to support you, it is nice to
provide a meal for them. It is also a really special part of your celebration. Sit down and enjoy your meal
with your guests! See the Food section for more tips and details.
Speeches, or toasts, make me cry pretty much every time. At my sister-in-law’s wedding, I laughed
harder than I think I ever have as we heard their love story in full disclosure for the first time. I’ve cried
as I’ve heard daddies talk about their precious daughters. And been touched as couples tearfully thank
all the people closest to them.
This is one of the most meaningful parts of a celebration. And it is also one of the most skipped. We feel
awkward talking in front of other people usually, right? Our parents may not want to say anything
because they don’t know what to say.
It is definitely true that maybe this really isn’t for you. But I would venture to say that I think almost
everyone would benefit from having speeches at their wedding. It’s a completely free way to add so
much meaning to your day. They can be pre-written expressions from parents or friends. They can be
the two of you telling your love story. They can be open-mic time for people to come up and briefly
share a favorite memory or something they love about you. You get to choose! You also get to choose
the parameters of how long they should be or how long open-mic time will be. Don’t let the fear of them
going on forever keep you from doing these. You can ask the people doing them not to humiliate you.
You can ask them to make it fun or sentimental or both. Don’t feel an obligation to have anyone do a
speech that you don’t want to.
This is you and your groom’s time to share your story or to thank those closest to you. This is your time
for your parents to pass you along to each other and let you know how much they love you. This is the
time for you to really hear how much you mean to your family and friends. Speeches bring everyone
together and are the most touching moments I’ve ever witnessed at weddings.
Speeches are usually best during dinner or the lunch about a half hour after the meal has started. They
can be as long or short as you choose. They don’t have to be long or extravagant to be meaningful. This
is one of the things I recommend including most!